Friday, July 23, 2010

Don't be born a man...

My inspiration for a blog can come from the most unusual places. This one comes from the lyrics of a country song and a recent exchange with a friend.

I've listened to county music all my life. Growing up in Texas my daddy played in a country band. He sang and played the fiddle. Now here in rural Missouri our local station plays classic country and ever now and then I hear a tune that my dad sang in my growing-up years. "Faded Love." "Cold, Cold Heart." "Fraulein."

An observation from an adult perspective: sometimes the lyrics in the old classics celebrate infidelity or unrequited love, but I brush it off as classic country culture. I always assume that Christians know the love triangle and cheating are contrary to Christian faith so I continue to enjoy the music.

Recently, however, I heard a song on our local station that reflects our current culture. This time the lyrics really disturbed me. The song: "Don't Be Born A Man If You Can Help It!" A google search failed to bring up the lyrics, so my thoughts come after hearing the song only once. The recurring gist of the song declared that women are taking over every area of life that previously had been a man's domain. A plumber with pink tools, a beautiful truck driver, a mechanic... always with the refrain, "Don't be born a man if you can help it because women are taking over the world."

The song was cleverly written with humor, but the tale it told broke my heart because I suspect it proclaims the heart of many men today, even in the church. So many people, both women and men, continue to believe that there are areas of life off limits to women--and many of them sincerely base this belief on their understanding of the Scriptures. But, on closer examination, our Scriptures say something else!

Jesus often encouraged women to participate in society in ways prohibited by the culture of his day. For example, Mary, sister of Martha, sat at Jesus' feet, learning from him. Mary took the place exclusively reserved for a man and Jesus said she had made a good choice.

Then there is the woman who came though the crowd to get close enough to Jesus to touch the hem of his garment. When Jesus turned and asked the one who touched him to come forth, the woman made herself known. Jesus required the woman to testify to her own actions which she quickly did. In that day women were prohibited from giving testimony. Luke's gospel also mentions that women taveled with the disciples and helped support Jesus and his followers out of their own means.

In the first century church, women were encouraged to serve according to their spiritual gifts. Phillip's daughters spoke messages to the church. Phoebe was a deacon, entrusted with responsibilities between congregations. Priscilla taught and ministered with her husband Aquila. At the end of the letter to the Romans a feminine name is listed as outstanding among the apostles! Junias, by name.

The word "apostle" means "one sent with a message." The first messengers chosen by the Lord after the resurrection were women! Women went to the tomb and the resurrected Lord sent them back to the other disciples to tell them he is risen!

Jesus brought an equality for women and men. So I say, don't be afraid to be born a man because women are not taking over the world. With the Lord's help we can be equal partners working together.

4 comments:

  1. I want you to keep going! I think you are really onto something. As soon as we start to discuss that men are feeling "uncomfortable" with women as equal partners in every aspect of life, we have to start to also admit that women aren't carrying the responsibility to help men/women understand our new places as good! We aren't talking and men aren't listening. Communication is pretty well shut-down in most places, especially the church. Thanks for writing this. Keep it up. I'm going to repost and retweet it!

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  2. To start this conversation yet again, we need teams--men and women working together--affirming equality, encouraging conversation, recognizing the spiritual gifts given to our sons and daughters as promised on Pentecost.(Everyone of us is a son or a daughter, not just those in the next generation.) The conversation about men and women in ministry together is shut-down and my brothers are pulling back from the table. My heart breaks for the body of Christ. We sever ourselves from one another and expect the world to hear the good news of Christ! But how can that be if we are unwilling to be body of Christ in the world today?

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  3. interesting perspective; I remember the frustration my dad felt after working hard for years, only to see a job promotion he expected to get be given to someone with fewer skills and experience because they were required to give it to a minority. It stung since he'd worked and participated in equal rights rallies. In the end, this left a bad taste in his mind, as he'd fought for equality, not unfair advantages. With this background info in mind, I can imagine how men would respond to the song - a reminder that no amount of hard work would matter as it could all be taken away for no reason.

    Then on the other hand, are the comments on the role of women in scripture, a nod to the walls often put up for them in churches. It is ironic that the more women seemed to open doors in the world, the church (some churches, not all) kept the doors bolted tight. Very thought provoking thoughts....

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